Who Voted On Your Marriage?



*A long time butch friend of mine sent this over to me with permission to post. I know, I’ve stated that I will not get into politics on here. That doesn’t mean I can’t welcome others.. ;)*

Please. Welcome K to the soapbox!


September 21, 1996, President Bill Clinton, a democrat, signed into law the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). On this day the sanctity of marriage was reduced to paper and money. This act federally banned marriage from being defined or viewed as anything other than the legal union between a man and woman, as well as giving the states the rights to deny benefits to homosexual couples. Many people stand against gay marriage for various reasons.

The reason I stand before you today is to ask you to consider this; my bedroom does not affect you, but your decisions about my relationship affect my finances, affect my views of those who stand on the Bible for discrimination, and continue to push me to believe that we have bigger issues to worry about than whether or not I need a piece of paper to define my relationship.

As a gay citizen in the US, and specifically Ohio I am directly affected by my inability to marry my partner. We have a son, over whom I have no rights. Taxes that must be filed separately, a family who stands on religion to demote me in their own world, and bigger issues to worry about than the legalities of marriage.

My intention is to prove to you that passing laws in favor of gay marriage is financially beneficial to the economy, promotes religious and personal acceptance, and will provide a bigger stage for other issues within our nation.

First we should provide the benefits to married gay couples that we do straight couples because it will allow more money to be put back into the economy.

Straight married couples file taxes together at a lower withholding rate than single individuals for both the state as well as federally. In 2013 it was ruled that the federal government must recognize your marriage if you were married in a state that does, but this does not ensure state benefits.

By allowing these benefits to be had across the nation uniformly we can ensure that the percentage of people who are unable to get married because of their state laws would have more money to put back into an economy that is struggling enough as it is.

 Many people do not see the financial benefits that are missed out on by same sex couples because it does not directly affect them. They do not find that someone else’s finances are an affront to their belief system, however people state that the sanctity of marriage is being demoralized by the acceptance of gay marriage.6a00d83452358069e2010535edd04f970b

  • Leviticus 18:22 states that you shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination. The suggested punishment for both parties is death because this is what is known as a “detestable” sin.
  • In order to stand on the platform of the Bible we must do so for all things, taking bits and pieces of this book, although it is a pillar of faith is just not right. In order to provide the punishments and rewards as it is stated I will put to death anyone who has committed any of the 7 deadly sins as they are stated, wrath, gluttony, sloth, pride, lust, envy, and greed.
  • John 8:7 states “He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.” In reference to a woman brought forward to Jesus accused of adultery. Along these same sentiments is James 4:12 which states; “There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the One who is able to save and to destroy but who are you to judge your neighbor?” This refers to God being the only person who can judge someone based on their sins and actions. If those who state the Bible is their reason for being against gay marriage are being true to their beliefs then they should be practicing the act of loving the sinner and not the sin. Discrimination and hate breeding are not Christian acts by this definition.


Beyond the scope of finances and religion there are bigger issues within our nation to be explored than the rights of gays and the so called sanctity of marriage. These include international relations, hunger and poverty, including unemployment, within our own nation, and anything else that can be improved upon in our policies.

Our country spends way too much time imploring our citizens to fit into a certain standard. I believe that there are bigger issues at stake than what I’m doing behind closed doors, or how I’m creating my family.

For 18 years, from 1996 to the present day, our country has been debating the “sanctity of marriage.” During this time in Ohio alone the divorce rate has increased, going from approximately 53 divorces per 100 marriages in 1996 to approximately 60 divorces per 100 marriages in 2010. In those 18 years, we have seen the deaths of terrorists, dictators, countless bombings, and a war.

Our economy has crashed, our own democracy is failing, and we have few solutions to these issues. One of the major political platforms is gay marriage. Why? Is not feeding our hungry or affording healthcare without taxing the public or political transparency not more important? People waste countless dollars fighting something that shouldn’t even be a fight.

In order to improve as a society we should be working towards a common goal of betterment as a whole, rather than fighting amongst ourselves. Presenting a united front on issues, even if we don’t agree with all of them allows us to get more done.


I believe that gay marriage should be a non-issue in our society today. The fact that we are wasting money on something that shouldn’t even be debated is evidence of how broken our society is. The inner workings of someone’s bedroom is more important than the child who hasn’t eaten in 3 weeks or the one who fell through the cracks of the system. More important than the parents who can’t support their children because our economy is stalled. Whether you oppose it because of the benefits that don’t affect you or the religious views you hold, we should all be able to agree that there are bigger issues to be dealt with.



Works Cited

“Frequently Asked Questions: Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA).” GLAAD. GLAAD, 2014. Web. 02 Apr. 2014.

“James 4:12.” James 4:12. Biblos.com, n.d. Web. 03 Apr. 2014.

“John 8:7.” John 8:7. Biblos.com, n.d. Web. 03 Apr. 2014.

“Leviticus 18:22.” Leviticus 18:22. Biblos.com, n.d. Web. 02 Apr. 2014.

Library, CNN. “Same-Sex Marriage Fast Facts.” CNN. Cable News Network, 02 Apr. 2014. Web. 03 Apr. 2014.

“Marriage and Divorce.” Marriage and Divorce. Ohio Department of Health, 24 May 2013. Web. 03 Apr. 2014.

Perez, William. “Married Filing Jointly.” About.com Tax Planning: U.S. About.com, 2014. Web. 03 Apr. 2014.

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