I have just a couple of things to add before I bombard you with all my observations and experiences on this topic.
One being, Boss’s best bro admitted that she reads my blogs! I’m flattered! Someone I interact with in real life. I hang out with. Reads my blog!! I don’t think I have to go into the actual reason why this bit of info is of importance.
Bro Code! I’m a femme.
I’m The Femme in our little circle. I drink like the bois. Chill like the bois. Don’t deal with the stupid bar drama like the bois. The hand holding that beer is fabulously decorated with painted nails and rings. I’m this reader’s friend and she mine. But, the Butch Bro Bond is pretty solid. When there is a butch bond of any kind. I know some butches can’t be friends with others because it’s some sort of pissing contest.
However, us girlies are guilty of similar behavior!!
Bois tend to tell each other about every girl they’re interested in, seeing, dating or fucking. My being Boss’ whatever and her friend’s friend. I’m in quite the predicament with these blogs about Boss now!!
Am I supposed to believe that whatever I say here doesn’t go back to Boss? It’s nothing she doesn’t already know, of course. I just hate the drama that gets stirred when there’s a middle boi!! Ugh! Or femme! Know what I’m sayin’?
How can I put this? There’s a new girl in the group. Which pleases me!! Except that she’s having a hard time coping with discovering that she’s just not as boish as she thought she was. Thanks to Boss’ friend. She realized that she’s a bit more submissive. When I heard this I click clacked my five inch stilettos to her and whispered, “It just takes that one amazing night. With that one amazing boi. Strappin’ on that perfect cock!”
We both got a good giggle. The bois high fived each other! Femme mission accomplished. 😉
While this new found femme is learning what all there is to being femme. She asked me, “Is there a femme code?”
Well! That got my mind spinning!!! Is there a femme code?!?!? If there was one…would we listen?!?!? Femmes are a bit hard headed. We’re stubborn! We’re a ‘get what we want when we want it’ group of women. Bro Code would typically involve things like: Don’t fuck with my girl. Inside jokes. And other things. High fives that leave the femmes wondering what the fuck was that about?!?!
Femmes? Not so much. I’m not friends with a lot of femmes. And the femmes that I have been friends with aren’t friends with many femmes either. Hmmm..
I’m mostly friends with butches. And NO they’re not all out to get into my pants. We exchange dating stories. Joke about others trying too hard to get our attention. Things like that. My curiosity if a butch is telling me that she really likes me or am I being a femme and over-thinking it. Which is usually what I have to remind myself with Boss. I’m over thinking a lot of our…whatever you wanna call us!! 😛
It’s been my experience with femmes that they usually feed off drama. Hence, my not getting along with them. I’m like one of the bois when it comes to that shit. I’ve literally told a girl off and walked away. And given my experience with my own dramatic bitch behavior I’d assume that those who like to cause drama are unhappy.
Fix it, Bitch!
I was tryin’ to help a sistah out! Especially, a new femme sistah! Don’t fuck with the boi and her friend! I feel this code! I’ve experienced it! I’m friends with butches! I’ve ditched bois for a girlfriend. It’s bullshit! I’ve had butches dump me as a friend for their girlfriends. I get it. I really get it. Then you get to a point where you put your foot down and say you’re not gunna do that anymore. My butches aren’t going anywhere this round. So, if you’ve read everything here about Boss and I. Know that Boss is always going to be a friend. There will be nights we go out drinking and you can choose to join us or not. That’s your decision!
Wouldn’t that be some kind of a bro/femme code?!?! Yep. Still not finding a femme code in this post, are ya?!!?!?
I’ve had femmes tell me that my secret is safe with them. Next thing I hear from a butch is a mixed up game of telephone? Totally misinterpreted every damn thing I said!!
So, my experience. There isn’t a femme code. Femmes are more of the Darwin effect. Every girl for herself, bitches. It’s fun to watch that sort of thing unfold. Be the femme that flirts and laughs with the bois. Hear how they talk about foolish and slutty other women make themselves out to be. And yes..how unattractive they think that is!!! There’s some insight, Ladies!! From the boi‘s mouths, into this femme’s ear, sharing with YOU!
I know that bois can quite oblivious to our flirting. But, is it really necessary to flash your goodies as an introduction?? Femme code? LOL! 😉